David Deida defines a "superior man" not by dominance or wealth, but by living a life aligned with truth, depth, and purpose, especially in the context of love, intimacy, and masculine/feminine polarity. The book is spiritual, psychological, and erotic all at once—blending Eastern philosophy, modern psychology, and personal growth.

Core Philosophy

A man’s primary gift to the world—and to any relationship—is his purpose. Without it, he feels lost or weak.Highlights:Never put a relationship before your purpose.Your woman (or feminine energy) will test your integrity constantly—not to attack, but to call you into deeper strength.Don't expect life to "settle"—lean into challenge and change.

"A man’s edge is where he stops short or hesitates—this is where he needs to lean in."

To be fully present with a woman (or the feminine), a man must understand its emotional intensity and unpredictability—and stay grounded in love regardless.Highlights:The feminine is not meant to be understood logically—it's meant to be felt and embraced.A woman’s complaints are often a disguised cry for more presence.Don't try to "fix" her emotions. Feel her, breathe her, and remain open.

Part 2: Dealing With Women and Feminine Energy

"The feminine is pure energy: emotional, wild, unpredictable. The masculine is direction, presence, and freedom."

Your work is not just a career; it’s an expression of your depth. If you're not pursuing your true purpose, everything—including love—will feel off.Highlights:Don't wait until everything is secure to follow your calling.Face your fears of failure, instability, and being alone.Even temporary jobs should serve your deeper purpose or growth.

Part 3: Work and Purpose

"If you don't know your purpose, discover it. If you know it but aren't living it, step up."

Live as if every moment were your last. Love without holding back.Highlights:A superior man lets go of fear of rejection, failure, and death.He brings his full consciousness into every interaction—especially in love and sex.Sex becomes a spiritual practice: not for release, but for union and worship.

Part 4: Loving Fully and Dying Completely

Every moment is a choice between closing and opening. Choose to open.

Sex is not about release—it's about deepening love and consciousness.Highlights:Learn to transmute sexual energy (don’t always ejaculate).Use sex to dissolve boundaries between you and your partner.Master your breath and presence, so you lead the sexual experience with heart and awareness.

Part 5: The Yoga of Sexuality

"Breathe down her throat and draw her into your heart."

A superior man doesn’t suppress emotion—he feels deeply without being controlled by emotion.Highlights:Feel everything—but act only on truth.Your mood is your responsibility; don’t expect a partner to stabilize you.Freedom is your core—return to it again and again.

Part 6: Spiritual and Emotional Mastery

"A superior man practices being free, even when his body, emotions, or partner beg him to close."

Purpose First: Without purpose, nothing works. With purpose, love flows.Presence Over Performance: Be deeply present with those you love; they crave your full awareness more than results.Lead With Love: Even in dominance or assertiveness, lead with openness, not fear or ego.Stay Open: Life, love, and death are wild. Meet them with a heart wide open, not closed by fear.

Takeaways

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Personal Development

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Mindfulness

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Love & Relationships

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David Deida

The Way of the Superior Man

Just because you empathize with others doesn’t mean you have to tolerate everything they do.

Understanding Doesn’t Mean Accepting Everything

Being the one who always listens and compromises can be draining. Your feelings matter just as much.

You Deserve to Be Understood Too

Some people take advantage of your kindness. Learn to differentiate between those who value you and those who use you.

Not Everyone Deserves Your Patience

Being understanding shouldn’t come at the cost of your mental and emotional well-being. Set limits.

Boundaries Protect Your Peace

You don’t have to be available for everyone, all the time. Prioritizing yourself is not selfish; it’s necessary.

It’s Okay to Say ‘No’

Carrying the weight of everyone’s problems will only break you. Let people handle their own journeys.

You Are Not Responsible for Fixing Everything

Relationships should be a two-way street. If you’re always giving and never receiving, something needs to change.

Reciprocity Matters

If you’re feeling exhausted from always being the understanding one, it’s time to pause and reflect on what you truly need.

Take a Step Back and Breathe

Extend the same patience and care to yourself that you so easily give to others.

Being Kind to Yourself is Just as Important

Some people don’t grow, no matter how much you try to help them. Accept this and walk away when needed.

Not Everyone Will Change, No Matter How Much You Understand Them

If you choose to stop overextending yourself, you don’t owe anyone an explanation. Your peace comes first.

You Don’t Have to Explain Yourself

"Being understanding is a gift, but not when it costs you your own happiness."

Knowing When to Set Boundaries and Prioritize Yourself

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Motivation & Inspiration

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Mental Health

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Longevity

Tired of Being the Understanding One: When Compassion Feels Like a Burden

True wealth lies in meaningful relationships with family, friends, and the community. It is about sharing life, making a difference, and experiencing love and support.

Family (Relationships)

Good health is essential for a fulfilling life. Without it, material wealth loses its value. Vibrancy, energy, and well-being are priceless.

Fitness (Health):

Wealth is the ability to live on your terms—free from financial stress, rigid schedules, and limitations. It allows one to pursue passions and enjoy life fully.

Freedom (Choice)

Real wealth is found in relationships, well-being, and the freedom to live life as you choose.

Conclusion

Wealth is not about material possessions but is defined by three key aspects: family, fitness, and freedom.

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Health

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Exercise & Fitness

The True Measure of Wealth - 3Fs

A gentle reminder that sometimes, when life feels uncertain, we just need to trust the flow of things and let them guide us to where we belong.Life doesn’t always have a clear path, but there’s beauty in surrendering to the journey.

"When you're lost, follow the river, and it will take you home"

Q: "What do you want to be when you grow up?"A: "Kind."The greatest aspiration isn't fame, power, or wealth — it’s kindness.Being kind is a quiet strength that heals and connects.

"Kindness Above All"

Isn't it odd, we can only see our outsides, but nearly everything happens on the inside?We often focus on the external world, but the most profound growth occurs within.True change starts in the heart, not on the surface.

"The Invisible Inner World"

"Most of the old moles I know wish they'd listened less to their fears and more to their dreams."Don’t let fear stop you from pursuing your dreams.Your dreams are the voice of your truest self.

"Listen to Your Dreams"

"One of our greatest freedoms is how we react to things."You can't control everything in life, but you can control how you respond.This is where true power lies — in your reactions.

Freedom in Our Reactions

"I think home is somewhere warm & kind with lights."Home is not just a place; it’s a feeling.It’s where love, warmth, and kindness surround you, no matter the physical space.

What Is Home?

Advice: "You fell, but I have got you."Sometimes we fall, but it’s the presence of someone who catches us that matters most.True strength lies in lifting others when they need it most.

"Support in Vulnerability"

"Tears fall for a reason, and they are your strength, not weakness."Tears cleanse the heart and bring release.They are a sign of strength, not fragility.

"Tears as Strength"

"I think you believe in me more than I do."Sometimes, we need someone else to believe in us when we struggle to believe in ourselves.Lean on others when doubt creeps in, and let their belief guide you forward.

Belief Beyond Ourselves

"Life is difficult, but you are loved."No matter how hard life gets, remember that you are not alone.Love is a constant, even when everything else feels uncertain.

"Loved, Even in Difficulty"

"To be honest, I often feel I have got nothing interesting to say." (I feel the same)Our honest truths, even when we feel they’re insignificant, have the power to connect us deeply with others.Being real is always interesting because it’s real.

"Being Honest is Always Interesting"

Q: "What's the bravest thing you've ever said?"A: "Help."Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength.It’s not the end; it’s a step toward healing, understanding, and growth.

"Bravery in Asking for Help"

"When the big things feel out of control, focus on what you love right under your nose."When everything feels overwhelming, return to the simple things that ground you.Focus on what brings you joy and peace in the present moment.

"Focus on What You Love"

Every difficulty, no matter how intense, is temporary.Hold on — the storm will eventually clear, and you’ll be stronger for it.

This Storm Will Pass

Q: "It feels like we have such a long way to go."A: "I know. But look how far we’ve come."When the journey feels endless, take a moment to reflect on how much you’ve already achieved.Growth is gradual, and progress is progress, no matter how small.

The Distance We’ve Traveled

Q: I just don’t think I can do this !A: Sometimes your mind plays tricks on you. It can tell you you’re no good, that it’s all hopeless.But I have discovered this: you are loved & important. And you bring to this world things that no one else can. So hold on.When self-doubt creeps in, remember: you are loved, you matter, and you have unique gifts to offer the world.Keep going, even when your mind tries to tell you otherwise.

Overcoming Doubt

Q: "And you still love me?"A: "We love you as you are, no matter what."True love and acceptance come without conditions.You are enough, just as you are. (Universe, is this you right ? 🫂)

"You Are Loved, No Matter What"

Q: "There's something I haven’t told you, that I can fly. But I stopped because it made the other horses jealous."A: Well, we love you whether you can fly or not."Embrace your uniqueness — it’s what makes you special.You don’t need to fit in or hide your gifts for fear of judgment."

It's Okay To Be Different

"Always remember: you are enough just as you are."No need to prove anything.You are worthy of love, success, and all good things, just as you are.

You Are Enough

"That's why we're here, isn't it? To love & be loved."The essence of life boils down to this: love.Love is the reason we exist, and it’s what makes every moment meaningful.

"Love Is Why We’re Here"

(IT FELT LIKE A SILENT HUG FROM THE "UNIVERSE") This story didn’t just speak to me—it embraced me. And in that embrace, I found peace, love, and a soft reminder that I matter. We all do.

"The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse"

The only people who never fail are those who never take risks. Trying means you had the courage to step forward.

Failure is Proof That You Tried

Instead of seeing it as an end, ask yourself: What did this failure teach me?

Every Failure Holds a Lesson

Failing at something doesn’t mean you’re a failure. It means you’re growing and learning.

You Are Not Your Mistakes

Every setback strengthens you. The more you fall, the stronger you become when you rise.

Failure Builds Resilience

Every successful person has faced failure. The difference? They didn’t stop.

Even the Best Have Failed

Sometimes, failure redirects you to a better path—one you wouldn’t have considered otherwise.

Failure Forces You to Rethink

Failing gives you experience. When you try again, you do it with wisdom and strategy.

You Can Start Over—Stronger

Feeling disappointed is normal, but don’t let it consume you. Use it as fuel to do better.

Embrace the Discomfort

Each failure is a stepping stone. Keep stacking them, and eventually, they lead to success.

Success is Built on Failures

Quitting is the real failure. As long as you keep going, you’re still in the game.

Failing Doesn’t Mean Giving Up

One failure doesn’t define your entire life. Keep writing your story, and make the next chapter a comeback.

This is Just a Chapter, Not the Whole Story

"Failure is not falling down; it’s refusing to get back up."

Failure is Not the End—It’s a Lesson in Disguise

I Failed: Turning Defeat into a New Beginning

Bill Sanders and Frank Mobus challenge the outdated belief that conflict should be avoided.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Constructive conflict is essential for innovation, growth, and better solutions.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Suppressing disagreement breeds resentment and mediocrity.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">True leadership lies in engaging conflict skillfully—not running from it.</li></ul>💡 The best teams don’t avoid conflict—they master it.

1. Conflict Isn’t the Enemy—Mismanagement Is

Traditional win-lose negotiation is outdated. The modern approach? Creative problem-solving.✔️ Focus on interests, not positions.✔️ View the other party as a partner in discovery, not an opponent.✔️ Expand the pie before you divide it—co-create value first.💡 The new game of negotiation is about alignment, not conquest.

2. Negotiation Is No Longer a Battle—It’s a Collaboration

✔️ Conflict can be a catalyst for clarity, creativity, and alignment.✔️ Rather than avoid it, ask: “What’s the opportunity in this tension?”✔️ Use conflict to expose assumptions, spark ideas, and build better outcomes.💡 Your discomfort is often the doorway to your breakthrough.

3. High Performers Embrace “Constructive Tension” 🔥

✔️ Short-term victories that damage trust cost more in the long run.✔️ Aim for agreements that benefit both sides over time.✔️ People remember how you treated them more than what you agreed on.💡 Play the infinite game—strong relationships are the real ROI.

4. Seek Long-Term Gains Over Short-Term Wins 📈

Creative Conflict teaches you how to negotiate with empathy, navigate tension with clarity, and turn disagreement into strategic advantage.👉 <a href="https://www.jdoqocy.com/click-101290670-11552245?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.booksamillion.com%2Fp%2FCreative-Conflict%2FBill-Sanders%2F9781633699496">Get your copy here</a> and start using conflict as your leadership superpower.

5. Are You Ready to Master Conflict and Elevate Your Influence?

✔️ The most successful negotiators read the room, regulate their reactions, and stay curious.✔️ Mastering tone, timing, and empathy turns arguments into breakthroughs.✔️ Listening deeply is often more persuasive than speaking forcefully.💡 People don’t resist ideas—they resist feeling unheard.

6. Emotional Intelligence is Your Hidden Weapon 🧠💬

✔️ Great negotiators prepare flexible frameworks, not fixed scripts.✔️ Understand your goals, values, walk-away point—and theirs.✔️ Leave space for unexpected insights and creative possibilities.💡 Preparation builds confidence—rigidity destroys rapport.

7. Prepare Strategically, Not Rigidly 🗂️

“Conflict, when engaged with skill and empathy, becomes a crucible for trust, creativity, and connection.”

From Creative Conflict, you’ll learn to:✅ Shift from win-lose tactics to co-creative negotiation.✅ Turn tension into productive energy that drives innovation.✅ Foster long-term partnerships through trust and transparency.✅ Use emotional intelligence to manage reactions and influence outcomes.✅ Embrace conflict as a skill to be honed—not a danger to avoid.💡 Mastering conflict isn’t optional—it’s essential for modern leadership.

9. Summary – Transform Conflict into a Competitive Advantage 🌟

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Learn how to transform friction into innovation using modern negotiation techniques that foster trust, creativity, and long-term success—even in high-stakes, high-pressure situations.

"Negotiation is stuck-it's time for something new. Almost everything is negotiable, almost every interaction a negotiation. And in no field is this clearer than in business, where every day we need to work with others to get things done. But when we have real differences, is a win-win always possible? Or must every negotiation be a zero-sum game, with a winner and a loser? Over the last half century, these two opposing philosophies have ruled the field: the win-lose, tooth-and-nail battle plan identified with training guru Chester Karrass, and the win-win, 'principled' creed of Getting to Yes, by Harvard's Roger Fisher and William Ury. Both were game changers in their day, but neither approach fully meets the challenges of today's volatile, disruptive, ultracompetitive business environment, where strategic problem-solving is a crucial skill, and time is of the essence. In Creative Conflict, negotiation experts Bill Sanders and Frank Mobus provide something new. They use a dynamic, dialectical approach to show that negotiations are driven by competition and cooperation at the same time, counterintuitively revealing that conflict is at the core of every negotiation. When we tiptoe around conflict, we negotiate in a half-hearted way that limits our results. Creative negotiators probe and push until they hit a wall of disagreement, then figure out how to get past it. The authors construct a simple framework based on three basic but distinct contexts: bargaining, dealmaking, and relationship building. They then instruct readers on how to skillfully pursue their own interests while simultaneously seeking ways to expand a deal's scope and value for both sides. Based on the popular Mobus Creative Negotiating seminars and the authors' experience working with Fortune 500 companies, Creative Conflict is a business book written for businesspeople, by businesspeople. It's your go-to guide for boosting your skills and confidence as a negotiator-and learning to strike a better deal"--

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Creative Conflict

Feeling broken doesn’t mean you’ve lost—it means you’ve survived. Strength is built in hardship.

Broken Doesn’t Mean Defeated

Only those who truly care, love, or dream can feel broken. Your pain is a sign that you lived fully.

Pain is Proof That You Feel Deeply

You won’t wake up whole overnight. Take your time to mend, one piece at a time.

Healing is Not Instant

The pain you carry is just a chapter, not your whole story. You are still capable of growth and joy.

You Are More Than Your Struggles

Every scar—physical or emotional—is proof that you overcame something meant to break you.

Scars Tell Stories of Survival

Being broken often means feeling lost, but even lost souls can find their way back.

It’s Okay to Feel Lost

You are not just the sum of your heartbreak, losses, or mistakes. There is more to you than the pain.

Don’t Let Your Pain Define You

The fact that you’re still trying, still breathing, still moving forward means you’re stronger than you think.

Strength is Found in Picking Up the Pieces

And that’s okay. Healing is your journey, not something others need to validate.

Not Everyone Will Understand Your Pain

Sometimes, being broken allows new perspectives, people, and hope to find their way into your life.

Light Can Enter Through the Cracks

No matter how shattered you feel, there’s always a way to rebuild—stronger, wiser, and better than before.

You Can Rise Again

"Being broken is not the end of the story. It’s just the moment before you rise again."

How to Embrace Your Pain and Rebuild Yourself Stronger

I Am a Broken Man: Finding Strength in the Fragments

'Every son of Adam commits sin, and the best of those who commit sin are those who repent'.

Say: 'O My servants who have transgressed against themselves (by sinning), do not despair of the Mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He Who is the Forgiving, the Merciful

This book attempts to bridge the gap between the traditional work of our rich and powerful heritage of classical Islamic scholars and the reality of the intensive and busy contemporary times that we currently live in.Based on classical Islamic resources, such as the Quran and Hadith, primarily the Kuttub al-Sittah, along with books of tazkiyah by classical authors such as Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim, Ibn Al-Jawzi, Abu Talib Al-Makki and others.

Classical Islamic Scholars and Our Contemporary Times

Many of us may be unaware that some things that we do, are actually sins - acts of disobedience to Allah (swt). Even when we are aware of them, we don't think that our sins can have negative consequences for us, in our relationship with Allah (swt), other people, and even the world. Learning about sins is an eye-opening, transforming experience that changes your heart and mind. Furthermore, it makes you look at the world from a new perspective which can change your life forever. Discover, dissect and digest how to prevent and even overcome that which poisons the heart of the believer.

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Tired of Being the Understanding One: When Compassion Feels Like a Burden

The True Measure of Wealth - 3Fs

"The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse"

I Failed: Turning Defeat into a New Beginning

Creative Conflict

I Am a Broken Man: Finding Strength in the Fragments

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The Way of the Superior Man

The Reason for My Hope

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The Way of the Superior Man

Tired of Being the Understanding One: When Compassion Feels Like a Burden

The True Measure of Wealth - 3Fs

"The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse"

I Failed: Turning Defeat into a New Beginning

Creative Conflict

I Am a Broken Man: Finding Strength in the Fragments

Sins

The Way of the Superior Man

The Reason for My Hope

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