As we all know, we expect something from the people who might be friends/family/anyone. If we are people who expect, the others should feel the same to give what we expect or atleast a bit.

Why Do We Expect

Expecting only what is not an exception for others.

A perception is that when expect too much and the amount of thoughts/effort we give, it is the same amount of thoughts/effort will be taken by opposite person to give back what we expect. If we do only what they don't expect, except for the things that truly matter, it might be a great way to approach this.

Perception

There's no right answer for this as it depends on our individual 🧬 lifestyle and the people we hang out with. We should be able to adapt our thoughts in such a way that we don't take it personl whatever happens.

What Do We Do

EXPECTING..What...!

“A genius is the man who can do the average thing when 
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Genuine Man

The Power of Observation 🕵️‍♀️ Sherlock Holmes once said, "The world is full of obvious things which nobody by any chance ever observes." In other words, we often fail to see the simple things right in front of us. Next time, try observing your surroundings and see the hidden details that may go unnoticed. 🧐 - Pay Attention.

👁️ observe

Understand yourself and those around you.

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There are many experiences in life and every individual should be subtle on decisions, choosing the ethics, being wise and fulfilling the purpose they found in their life.

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We are so busy in our lives that we only remember the hard work or how much we miss our mom when we see an post, reel in Instagram/listen to a song/hear some podcast.

Can't we just express our true selves to the ones who are reason for our life right now let that be a good or bad yet we know each good experience or bad experience will lead to a great outcome. The outcome is because of our life. Let's take some moment of time to think, understand ourselves, and appreciate mom with our own thoughts rather than some inspiration.

Why Not !

Lets be our own inspiration and see the smile on our loved ones. Just try to talk openly and tell how you care, love, and make them realise your true self.

Be Our Own Inspiration

It would take only some time in our busy life. We know we are working hard for our parents yet let's take some time each month and do this. This would make our lives less burden and stress as well as we can always have our true self with us. Let's not waste our little time on this universe as we embark on many ups and downs.

Little Time

FOR THIS ONE SMILE 😊

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In TEDx talk by Patti Dobrowolski takes viewers on a thrilling cinematic adventure of empowerment and self-discovery. As a great TEDx speaker, she expertly combines tales, insight, and useful guidance to craft a story that captivates audiences
A moving statement by Maya Angelou starts the video, laying the groundwork for an in-depth examination of the human spirit's ability to overcome adversity and bring aspirations to lifeAudiences are drawn into Dobrowolski's search for meaning and satisfaction via her talk, 
which makes for an engaging narrative arc by beating failing odds of 90% chances 🍷

The building of a vision board serves as an example of how Dobrowolski illustrates the transforming power of a picture in one’s discourse. Dobrowolski's advice goes beyond simple recommendation; it provides a road map for converting vague dreams into tangible objectives with meaning and purpose. This road map helps an individual to turn their objectives in a visual form from the current state to the desired new reality within three steps considering the contrasting reality.

Vision Board

The reality can be made better by using emotional intelligence to be happy. The best solution can be found by guessing the odds and evens of a roadmap with a visualization of ourselves at the start and end.The below from video can help one’s brain to lead themselves to achieve the desired dreams:
<ul><li>Current State(Difficulties, Hard reality, no interest/passion)</li><li>Steps in between: See it, Believe it, Act on it.
</li><li>Desired New Reality(Happy life, less stress, passionate and fantastic)
</li></ul>

Reality

Her message, however, shows importance beyond visualization; it is a powerful affirmation 
of the unwavering conviction that our ambitions are attainable. Dobrowolski skilfully breaks down the internal conflict between the right brain's visionary vision and the left brain's skepticism, encouraging viewers to embrace the latter's limitless creativity and mute the previous one taking a stand for themselves.
Under her direction, belief ceases to be only a theoretical idea and instead becomes an 
emotional force(naturally doable) that may inspire people to pursue their significant dreams.

Significance

Dobrowolski's speech, however, is not limited to thoughtful reflection; rather, it is a statement
 to bravely walk, one step at a time, toward our ambitions. She encourages viewers to let go of perfectionism and embrace the transforming potential of little, consistent actions by highlighting the gradual nature of growth. 
Most importantly, Dobrowolski emphasizes how important community is to our ability to achieve our goals.

Motivation

To sum up, Patti Dobrowolski's talk is a deep declaration of human potential rather than just a 
motivating speech. She inspires audiences to go beyond the boundaries of self-doubt and start 
a path of deep transformation with her passionate narrative, practical advice, and steadfast. She pleads with viewers to create a network of allies who are supportive and who share their goals to offer responsibility and motivation on the difficult journey towards personal development as well as trust in the attainability of our ambitions using the leadership within us to self-lead in the right direction

Conclusion

A great Leader start off as a great Follower

A nationally acclaimed comic performer, high-performance business consultant, speaker, strategic illustrator and newly minted author, Patti Dobrowolski spends her time focused on new neuroscience discoveries that leverage the power of imagination and visuals to actualize a vision of the future. Dobrowolski works with teams and leaders of Fortune 500 companies and nonprofits around the world to inspire them to create new and different strategies while literally capturing the organization's vision in a 4' x 8' illustration.

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Patti Dobrowolski, author of 9 Tips to Up Your Creative Genius and DRAWING SOLUTIONS: How Visual Goal Setting Will Change Your Life, is the founder of Up Your Creative Genius, a consulting firm that uses visuals and creative processes to help companies and individuals around the world accelerate growth and change. 

Patti is a critically acclaimed comic performer, writer, business consultant and an internationally recognized, four-time TEDx talk speaker. She has brought innovative visual practices to Fortune 100 companies, governments, not for profits and small businesses. Patti holds a Masters in Psychology with an emphasis in Drama Therapy from the California Institute of Integral Studies.
 
Her signature TEDx talk, Draw Your Future explains the process she created called “The Snapshot of the Big Picture,” and has received close to 6 million views across all channels.



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Drawing Your Dreams Into Reality

The video explains EI in a holistic approach considering culture, social-interpersonal skills, leadership, decision-making, and life. EI derives from our way of living and how we interact with others as well as the world. Daniel Goleman highlights EI from interpersonal relationships to academic and professional achievements to achieve/use it properly first we need to have a self-awareness of our intuitions questioning each decision.

For instance, if we need to decide on choosing a course to apply for or buy a new item, we should even consider the emotions that can affect us negatively to make the right decision which is positive for our emotions and the self. For this, we need to be receptive to our emotions concerning the situation so that we get the most out of it. As part of this, our emotions work like functions, and we need to get ourselves attuned to what we do with passion. Video says that we can be empathetic to others, it can help in understand them and thereby react accordingly with a strong EI.

The teller says that the EI has a range of different aspects, for people in the top 10% there is no difference between men and women at EI. Daniel Goleman specifies about the culture that Americans find it difficult to recognize the EI in Japanese which says that the EI varies according to culture and it’s important to have a perspective of open-mindedness towards cultures

The most important domain explained by Daniel Goleman of EI is an amalgamation of the above. The building up of EI for any individual is a time-consuming process as the brain part that can support EI is the last circuitry that becomes anatomically mature. To get used to having a high EI, the best suggestion made by Daniel Goelman is to nurture kids with EI consistency to develop because the brain's neuroplasticity is shaped based on experiences over time the kids will develop a better and more empathetic society.

Even though the programs for EI have been initiated in many schools, there are some doubts about if this program could work. Based on the research stats video on kids in the video who had EI programs in school vs those who didn’t, the behavior of students has a positive impact. The reason for this resolution is that the programs are showing the effect on the executive functioning of the prefrontal cortex that regulates thoughts, actions, and emotions.

It might look like we are becoming more EI as the environment changes but, Daniel Goleman thinks we aren’t becoming more Emotionally Intelligent because of the wars, and misunderstandings going on due to emotions going out of control. Overall, this video helps in a broader understanding of the EI to use it correctly in daily life and embrace potential decisions, understanding as well as relationships.

The Emotional Intelligence(EI) and it's significant impact in a good or bad way for life

Daniel Goleman Introduces Emotional Intelligence
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Emotional intelligence is a range of abilities, self-awareness, emotional self-management, empathy, social skills. Women tend to be better than men on average at empathy, particularly emotional empathy, sensing in the moment how the other person is feeling and also, at social skills, at keeping things feeling good between people in a group. Men, on the other hand, tend to be better on average at self-confidence, particularly in groups, and at managing distressing emotions.
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DANIEL GOLEMAN:

Daniel Goleman is a psychologist, lecturer, and science journalist who has reported on the brain and behavioral sciences for The New York Times for many years. His 1995 book, Emotional Intelligence (Bantam Books) was on The New York Times bestseller list for a year and a half.
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Question: What is emotional intelligence?

Daniel Goleman: Emotional intelligence refers to how well we handle ourselves and our relationships, the 4 domains. Self-awareness, knowing what we’re feeling, why we’re feeling it, which is a basis of, for example, good intuition, good decision-making. Also, it’s a moral compass. Say, in part, is self-management, which means handling your distressing emotions in effective ways so that they don’t cripple you, they don’t get in the way of what you’re doing, and yet, attuning them… to them when you need to so that you learn what you must. Every emotion has a function. Also, [marshalling] positive emotions, getting ourselves, you know, involved, enthused about what we’re doing, aligning our actions with our passions. The third is empathy, knowing what someone else is feeling. And the fourth is putting that altogether in skilled relationship. So that’s what I mean by emotional intelligence. There’re many definitions out there. The part of the brain, it turns out, that supports emotional and social intelligence is actually the last circuitry of the brain to become anatomically mature. And because the neuroplasticity of the brain shapes itself according to repeated experiences, so my argument is, hey, we should be teaching kids regularly overtime, in a systematic way, self-awareness, self-management, empathy, and social skill. In fact, there, now, enough programs and they’ve been around enough in schools that they’re about to publish a huge meta analysis, looking at hundreds of schools and kids that had the program versus those that don’t. Guess what? All anti-social behavior, you know, disruption in class, find that… it goes down 10%. Pro-social behavior, liking school, well-behave, up 10%. Academic achievement scores, up 11%. So it really pays. Executive function, which is mediated by the prefrontal lobe, both helps you manage your emotions and helps you pay attention. So as kids learn these skills, they also learn learning… basic learning skills. I think that the fact that that was an argument was one thing that caught people’s attention. Then, there was a little chapter on… called managing with heart, which argued that leaders who were sons of a bitch were actually defeating the company’s own mission. And I think that made a lot of people happy because they work for people like that. I don’t know… Some people gave it to other people because they thought they needed help in this domain. I’m sure there’re a zillion reasons why people like the book.

Question: Are we becoming more emotionally intelligent?

Daniel Goleman: I hope more. I know IQ has been going up for a hundred years as children encounter more sophisticated cognitive environment as they grow. I don’t know that we’re becoming more emotionally intelligent. I like to hope we would but I think that the number of intergroup wars going on, the intergroup hatred going on, the, you know, levels of familial abuse, in other words, indicators of emotions out of control in dangerous ways don’t look that great, which is why I’m a very strong proponent of getting these social, emotional learning programs in every school worldwide.

Question: Are women more emotionally intelligent than men?

Daniel Goleman: Well, I get asked that question in a different way, which is, are women more emotionally intelligent than men? And you have to remember that emotional intelligence is a range of abilities, self-awareness, emotional self-management, empathy, social skills. 

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The Indian leadership scenario is a combination of leaders who are kind-hearted, partiality-based, selfish, authentic, courageous, and organization-oriented. Some of these can affect the individual who is under a leader. If the leader is well structured and has the potential to guide individuals through good and bad uncertainties in the right way while considering the value of each individual's existence, this would be a revolution for every organisation or community.

Indian Leadership

As some leaders lack awareness of human existence for everyone, they tend to just work for their own benefit, which may be a pressure from higher authorities or owners. Overall, this affects the individuals. Most Indian leaders are made under the influence of their hereditary or own willingness. This inheritance can affect a leader in how they guide, react to circumstances, or work, so it's important to make them aware of the importance of life and their decisions.

Examples Of Leaders Drawback

The best example of Indian leadership is politics, where most of them are working to scam more money rather than helping the states under them. The main problem is that they don't have a clear understanding of human existence, how we should be grateful for what we have, and how we can be helpful to others who don't have what we have but just the fad on money. In this regard, incorporating existential psychotherapy into Indian leadership can help individual leaders, starting from the government to each organisation, which could be beneficial for each individual to achieve greater goals.

Politics

Through existential psychotherapy, we can make the leaders aware of life and the meaning that needs to be theirs, not just for themselves but for the individuals under them, which means the existential psychotherapist and the listener are both getting benefits. This can lead to a change in the way leaders treat people and behave with them because they will realise everyone has their own life and life is finite, so we should live with our full authenticity, if not shown to others, at least for ourselves. The decision-making process is enhanced from self-benefit to community benefit.

Impact Of Existential Psychotherapy

The leader will be able to understand that life has meaning in every uncertainty, not just the wins. Existential psychotherapy can even lead so many ruthless leaders to become better than nothing just by changing the atmosphere in which they live by choosing their own freedom. The leaders will be able to develop humility and inner peace through their own strength. By focusing on personal accountability, creating purpose, and accepting the inherent difficulties of leadership, existential psychotherapy helps Indian leaders who are confronting uncertainty become more resilient.

Development

It empowers leaders to face ambiguity head-on, strengthening their ability to overcome obstacles, persevere through hardship, and ultimately produce stronger deliverables and results. Existential psychotherapy can play a vital role in taking the Indian leadership scenario to the next level with the inclusion of Indian beliefs on spiritual existence for the well-being of each individual. Ultimately, the integration of Indian spiritual ideas with existential psychotherapy has the potential to greatly improve the leadership situation.

Uncertainties

Through addressing existential issues and embracing spiritual dimensions, this method cultivates resilient leaders who honestly manage obstacles, align with cultural values, and promote holistic well-being—all of which contribute to an increase in overall effectiveness as a leader.

The Role Of Existential Psychotherapy

A change that's benefits every individual.

How far is the Existential Psychotherapy needed in indian leadership scenario

Shaping ourself interms of mental stability, resilience and self reflection depends purely on our principles, ethics, values and weakness. The strengths of us mostly help us to have a strong empathy. Therefore we need to shape ourself. Just like the image depicts on how a pot or vase is made as per requirement, we need to have certain requirements and fulfill them in our life.

Shaping Ourself

Cut your fallen values or ethics or weakness (leaves) and grow(bonsai tree) as needed to shape yourself beautiful as a tree and pure as oxygen.

We need to reform ourselves as per our life growth to be in better form for our future. We can do this by finding any behaviour we reflect on others which made us feel low or lost self respect. That's the notification ring to take it into notice and change accordingly. This habit can enhance our confidence with better reflection on self and others which can contribute to our memorable finite life.

Bonsai Tree Theory

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Just a Moment to Remember Ourselves

We all tend to start our day as a fresh start and there are routines that we follow.

Day Starts With

Generally varies individual-individual but yet it's important for everyone to go through some in order to maintain good health physically and mentally.

Common Routines

It might be wondering that why the consistency popped up out of the sky as the topic is on common routines. The routines which we follow can be a symbolic representation of our consistency.

Consistency

"A small initiation about our little time on ourself, similar to a toothbrush on teeth in the morning can lead to consistent confidence"

The ToothPaste THEORY*

As everyone of us brush our teeth as soon as we wake up. This leads to have a fresh conversations and tastes throughout the day. Just how we fancy the brushing teeth. We can focus and improve our life with small steps. Time taken - minimum is 2min further it can long upto 4/5 minutes. As an average, we can take it as 3 minutes to brush. Imagine that we work on ourself atleast for this same time in our daily busy lives. It might look a bit funny though, trust me this will work.

Idea behind Theory: 

A minor step for a success(mental health/physical health/short-term goals/long-term goals.. Etc) varies with respect to time spent. ﻿Major benefit is consistency that we develop as most of us are busy in our lives. This not only makes us consistently robust individual, even gives confidence for us.

Benefits from this 

Thought these might help atleast a single person to improve consistency in life which we lead most of us are now inconsistent.

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Morning Rituals: Small Steps to Consistency and Confidence

Sometimes, A thought on comparing something with our life just makes the day...!😄

Leaf To Life 🧬

The leaves(we Humans) for a small 🌿strands(countries) of a 🎄 big tree(The Earth 🌏).

Humans And Leaves🌿

Just like how the 🌿 each leaf is beautiful while tied up with the strand. We all together are beautiful as an individual in each country spreaded on this beautiful planet. We are unique in our owns ways, just live the life to it's potential.

Uniqueness

We all get the oxygen through plants, let's save them and us as well.

The Life 

We are sentient human beings, hope the journey is sweet and smooth.

EXPECTING..What...!

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Process

A Small Change That We Need – From the Heart

Drawing Your Dreams Into Reality

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